“You are comparing me to others, pointing out what is missing in me.” I told my friend (yes), who was critical and liked noting how I may have to change. I continued: “I can also compare others to me, find what is missing in them.”
Her eyes widened for a moment. Her shoulders settled. We turned to other topics.
I had thought that my observation about comparison was obvious to others. Apparently not. Status quo bias? Need to look around and find fault, so that they feel secure inside?
I am sure, I am doing the same too. To myself, to others. How can I be aware of this?